bringing 3 yo to violin & piano concert

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Irene said: Aug 11, 2011
Irene Yeong160 posts

I am thinking of bringming my soon to be 3 year old daughter to her violin teacher’s charity concert.
any experience bringing a 3yo to violin concert? are they.. in general, able to sit still and quietly?
she can sit quietly watching dvd, and pay attention in lessons, but i dont know about concert. please share your experience, thanks.

Betty Douglas said: Aug 11, 2011
 16 posts

First, I would start by talking to her teacher and finding out how long the first piece is. Some full-blown classical pieces can last over 30 minutes. Secondly, I would try to sit somewhere where an escape can be made- outside aisle where you are not in direct line of the performer’s vision. If the first piece is long- you might consider leaving after a few movements if your daughter is antsy. I might even bring crayons and paper and let her sit on the floor as long as she was quiet, listening and understands it’s “quiet time.” That reminds me- you might try a few “quiet times” for practice when you turn on a CD or musical DVD to practice being quiet (you might not need to, you know your own daughter!). Good luck!

Betty Douglas, flute teacher

Donna said: Aug 11, 2011
 4 posts

I think that Betty’s response is exactly on the mark.. You might even
suggest that your daughter consider her feelings about the music and to draw
what she feels.. You could explain that by listening quietly she is being
a well mannered guest. She is invited to stay at the concert as long as she
remembers to behave like a big girl..

On Thu, Aug 11, 2011 at 10:30 PM, SAA Discussion

Terri said: Aug 12, 2011
 10 posts

I brought my son at age 3 to a performance of “The Magic Flute”—he was already familiar with much of the music and was really into it. But I was also prepared to leave early if he couldn’t deal with it.

One factor might also be what time of day the perfornance is scheduled.

Barb said: Aug 12, 2011
Barb Ennis
Suzuki Association Member
685 posts

Hi Irene,

Definitely talk to the teacher about it. I have to say, though, from an audience member’s perspective, I would find it distracting if a 3 year old were coloring on paper near me, depending the general atmosphere of the concert. At a children’s concert I would expect it and not be bothered. I was at a “school” concert where the symphony played for children. Though the mother was bothered, I thought it was cute when a preschooler was moved to dance in the aisle!

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Irene said: Aug 12, 2011
Irene Yeong160 posts

the minimum age limit is 3 but then again, yes, i talked to the teacher and reasonably should not disturbing other audiences. Thankfully, my husband agreed to go , so he’ll take her out and wait if she can’t be keep quiet, then I get to enjoy the concert. :)
I’ll bring plenty of sweets , hope it helps when she starts to get restless.
Thanks for all your replies.

Paula Bird said: Aug 13, 2011
Suzuki Association Member
Violin, Piano, Viola
Wimberley, TX
404 posts

Remember, ability is developed. Practice taking the youngster to concerts even if short visits. Playing the music ahead of the concert in the home helps the child focus too. My parents regularly took us to concerts and opera (4 hour Mozart operas!), and we learned how to behave. We had intermission to work out any wiggles.


Paula Bird

(blog about teaching, parenting, and violin)

Paula E. Bird
TX State University
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