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Something to Think About

Paula Bird said: Feb 6, 2013
 
Suzuki Association Member
Violin, Piano, Viola
Wimberley, TX
386 posts

I posted an article about one teacher’s number one pet peeve. Parents may find this to be a hard read, but please note the good news at the end. I offer you:

Pet Peeve #1

Paula E. Bird
TX State University
Wildflower Suzuki Studio
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Paula Bird said: Feb 18, 2013
 
Suzuki Association Member
Violin, Piano, Viola
Wimberley, TX
386 posts

Here is another article about the road to excellence. It has information that may be useful to both parents and teachers:

The Road to Excellence

Paula E. Bird
TX State University
Wildflower Suzuki Studio
http://teachsuzuki.blogspot.com (blog)
http://teachsuzuki.com (podcast)

Paula Bird said: Feb 25, 2013
 
Suzuki Association Member
Violin, Piano, Viola
Wimberley, TX
386 posts

Here is part two of the article about the road to excellence. The article discusses the big enemy to excellence:

The Road to Excellence, part 2

Paula E. Bird
TX State University
Wildflower Suzuki Studio
http://teachsuzuki.blogspot.com (blog)
http://teachsuzuki.com (podcast)

Sue Hunt said: Feb 26, 2013
Sue Hunt
Suzuki Association Member
Viola, Violin
389 posts

“Do not artificially force your child’s learning pace to fit your poorly-managed schedule.” Easier said than done! I love the useful ideas you have up your sleeve.

Paula Bird said: Feb 27, 2013
 
Suzuki Association Member
Violin, Piano, Viola
Wimberley, TX
386 posts

But it is easy! It just doesn’t look easy when we are in a hurry. We think that we have little time, but it always amazes me to set a kitchen timer for 15 minutes to devote to decluttering some area of a room, and the time seems to S-T-R-E-T-C-H before me. If we allowed ourselves 5 minutes every day over a cup of coffee, we could contemplate the day’s schedule in a relaxed manner. Everyone would benefit surely. And 5 minutes is really a long time, wouldn’t you agree? This is advice that I struggle to remember on a daily basis!

Paula E. Bird
TX State University
Wildflower Suzuki Studio
http://teachsuzuki.blogspot.com (blog)
http://teachsuzuki.com (podcast)

Sue Hunt said: Feb 28, 2013
Sue Hunt
Suzuki Association Member
Viola, Violin
389 posts

5 minutes can feel like an eternity, when we are doing something which challenges our powers of focus. I find awareness exercises particularly difficult. 50 seconds can seem like half an hour. So, when your child has to do something hard, how about doing it ONCE correctly between all the other practice tasks.

Rachel said: Mar 10, 2013
 19 posts

Paula, while I agree that parents need to accept responsibility to initiate and complete practice between lessons, I also think it is challenging. I am not a perfect parent. We don’t get in daily practices. But when we practice it is thoughtful and quality practice. The days we don’t practice with the instrument I try to verbally “practice” with my child, reminding my child what the teacher expected us to work on between lessons. We also listen to the discs (not just the current book’s disc).

All that said, sometimes I am fully aware that my child and I did not fully complete the “homework” assigned to us, but we desperately need to get back on track. Difficult lessons with the teacher are sometimes the perfect way to remind my child and me that this is a long process we have committed to, and if we flub a bit one week (or more), it is okay. Just get back on track. Bringing the child to lesson unprepared is sometimes all we can do to keep on track.

Maybe your student and her mother needed to have that tough lesson as a catalyst for reinstating practice routines. You even said that the following week she proudly reported daily practice.

Paula Bird said: Mar 10, 2013
 
Suzuki Association Member
Violin, Piano, Viola
Wimberley, TX
386 posts

Absolutely dragonfly! What I talk about here is the parent’s attitude that favors the side of graciousness rather than the side of making it work, I don’t grinch at folks when life gets in the way, but I do point out when parents are making laxness a habit, as was the case here. The reason they had a better week is because I had to have this hard talk at the lesson.

Paula E. Bird
TX State University
Wildflower Suzuki Studio
http://teachsuzuki.blogspot.com (blog)
http://teachsuzuki.com (podcast)

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